In this article, we’re going to talk about how to get your spouse back and save your marriage.
First and foremost, I wanted to take a minute to say how sorry I am that you are going through this situation, I empathize with you, I know how difficult this can be and I know that it seems like there’s no hope in sight but I am here to tell you that there is hope. You are not the only person who is going through this situation and sometimes when you are going through this situation you feel completely alone and you feel like you are the only person in the world who’s dealing with this. But I wanted to take a second to maybe change your perception of the situation.
Yes, you are in a situation in which you are fighting to get your spouse back and as much as that may seem like a negative situation, it very well could also be a positive. What is happening is that you are refocusing your attention back on your relationship. Life happens, it can become monotonous, there’s routine, you get busy with work, with the kids, with chores, with all these different things that you have to do and what ends up happening is there’s a shift in your priorities and in that shift, your relationship starts to take a back seat.
Now you are in a situation in which you are fighting for your relationship and that could be a good thing because now your focus is back on your relationship. It is your number one priority and it is very possible that when you get through this hump, your relationship may actually be stronger than when you started.
So what are the tips to getting your spouse back and saving your marriage?
- Give your spouse space
Space is very important, especially That may seem a little counter intuitive, considering that maybe space or too much space is what caused you to be in this situation but this type of space is more of a reflective space. You need to be able to take a minute, take a step back, and really try to understand how you got here. In order to do that, there has to be space, there has to be a time that you prioritize for yourself and for your spouse to be able to go through that process The last thing that you want to do right now is to not give your partner space and make them feel like they are suffocating. That will absolutely end your relationship if you continue to suffocate your spouse.
- Do you
A lot of people when they’re in a relationship, especially in a long-term relationship, end up focusing on making their partner happy and they start to forget about themselves and what actually makes them
happy. Keep in mind, you cannot make somebody else happy unless you are happy yourself. You cannot love somebody else unless you truly love yourself.
That said, you have to take time for yourself, to do things that make you happy, activities that you once used to do that you don’t do anymore, whether that be going on a jog, going on a walk, etc. Pick up those old hobbies or a new one and start to invest time in yourself.
- Quality over quantity
You’ve probably heard this before in many different circumstances and different situations, but in regards to the relationship, quantity over quality is in regards to communication. You want to make sure that you are having quality conversations instead of quantity.
Think about it, one really good conversation is better than five mediocre conversations.
- No negativity
There is nothing less attractive than nagging, drama, and negativity. It’s true that you might have formed this habit only in the process of separation, but make the conscious decision to not be negative. Refrain from the negativity, from the drama, and from those moments where you just want to say what’s on your mind, if it is not positive, then just don’t say it.
- Love languages
What are your partner’s love languages? is it words of affirmations? is it small gifts? is it physical touch?
Getting to know your partner’s love language is important in trying to gain your spouse back. Indeed, it is possible that you may have known your partner’s love languages before and time went on, things happened, the routine of life, and you forgot those love languages or you just forgot to prioritize those love languages. You have to go back to that. Going back to that and figuring out what makes your partner tick will help you to reconnect and to get your spouse back.
Now that you know the five most important tips in getting your spouse back, make sure to apply all of this advice, and good luck saving your marriage. To learn more about creating a healthy marriage you can visit TexasMarriageExperts.com.